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April 11, 2010

Introducing toys into the Bedroom

Filed under: The Marital Bed — Tags: adult toy party, adult toys, Buzzing Butterfly Ring, C-Ring, couple's toys, double twin rabbit, erotic hot massage kit, happy penis, masturbation sleeve, nipple clamps, oral sex, orgasm, sleeves, the bedroom experience, velvet touch masturbator — arousep @ 12:22 am

I have been asked many times how to actually introduce toys into the bedroom; well- the way I did it was to start selling the toys, so obviously that won’t work for everyone. J

One really easy and great way to introduce them is to tell your partner that you are going to an adult toy party with the girls. This is a quick way to see how he would react. (it is also a great way to see adult toys up close and personal- in the privacy of your own home or your friends and in a party setting that is secure and fun! ) If he is excited for you to go to the party, he is excited to stimulate the bedroom experience!

If he doesn’t seem to want you to go to a party…well there you may have the answer that he is intimidated by the toys. Many people misunderstand that the toys are not for taking over in the bedroom but for enhancing.

Keep the conversation light hearted when delving into the toy talk. Don’t go into this conversation during an argument and/or because you just had sex and didn’t have an orgasm.

The fact is that men want to please their spouse/partner and their egos can get involved when you feel the need to get a toy to help with orgasms. But, women sometimes NEED the help to reach orgasm and having her achieve one is in the best interest of everyone.

So make it about him. Explain that a C-Ring (such as Buzzing Butterfly Ring) will help him have an even better orgasm than ever and stick with the kind built for couple’s and it will help you as well. J

I also like to tell ladies to make toys an experience. Not to just have sex and then, oh- whip out a toy, let’s put this on! Massage your man (using our Erotic Hot Massage Kit is an awesome way to do this) , blindfold him- get him in a sexy mood and then use a cream that stimulates his penis (such as Happy Penis) and he will be ready for anything! Slip a C-Ring over his penis and climb on!

Another great toy to make it about him is the masturbation sleeve (such as our Velvet Touch Masturbator) Masturbation sleeves are intended for masturbation but are awesome for enhancing oral sex. Slipping one of these sleeves on and massaging the penis while using your mouth for extra stimulation and your man will forget that there is a toy involved at all.

Again, a great way to let him do anything you want is to get him stimulated and if he will let you; blindfold him.

Keeping the toys simple at first will keep the toys from being less intimidating as well and will lead to bigger and better toys. A few suggestions are Couple’s toys, Nipple clamps, sleeves, etc.

Toys mentioned in this article:

Double Twin Rabbit (re:couple’s toys) : $43 Vibrating bullets on either side of the penis turns the penis into a vibrator!
Buzzing Butterfly Ring $15 A great C-Ring for couple’s and for a great price. This Ring has clitoral stimulating nubs as well as a vibrating bullet. And of course the wonderful C-Ring for the penis to keep it erect and keep it lasting.
Happy Penis $10 Penis stimulating lotion in Banana Split, Pina Colada, and Cherry Sucker flavors.
Erotic Hot Massage Kit: $32 comes with Heart Warmer Massager, Joy of Erotic Massage DVD, CD of relaxing music and a massage candle that melts into massage oil.
Lovers Mask: $8
Velvet Touch Masturbator $28

To sign up for a party and/or purchase one of the products mentioned…Go to About the Parties and fill out the form.

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Importance of Toy Cleaner

Filed under: Toys — Tags: adult sex toy collection, toy cleaner — arousep @ 12:21 am

We need to understand the importance of toy cleaner for your adult sex toy collection. You spend a lot of money on your toys, they are something you enjoy and they are also something that you use on your most private area. You need them clean to make sure that you stay healthy and don’t risk infection.

Hot Water

Many people like to just use hot water. This isn’t acceptable because you would have to boil the water to make it hot enough to fight bacteria and this isn’t going to be good for your silicone or jelly toys. The only toys this would be okay for would be glass dildos.

Anti-bacterial Soap

This isn’t a good idea at all because the ingredients that make up anti-bacterial soap would break down your PH levels. Never use Anti-bacterial soap on toys or on your genitals. This will cause the PH Levels to break down and you will get infection.

Don’t use anything

This is the worse idea. You would have infection and your toys would be worthless. And its gross.

There are quite a few brands out there and a few different types for your convenience.
Gel- More concentrated, put a little on, mix in a little water and clean your toy. You must be careful to not get your toys battery compartment wet.
Spray- My preferred method. Spray it on and wipe it off. Easy and cost effective.
Wipes- Wipes are similar to the spray but not as cost effective. The wipes are great for travel however.

So go out and take care of your health and your toys by using toy cleanser. I understand that people would like to spend their money on their toys and not its cleanser, but just as you need socks for your shoes. It is a must.

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Toys and the Single Woman

Filed under: Sex and You,Toys — Tags: g-spot, masturbation, multiple use vibrators, orgasm, sexual health, sexual pleasure, vibrating bullet — arousep @ 12:18 am

You know the saying “Don’t use it and you lose it”? This goes for single women especially! If you are not sexually active, you should get some multiple use toys to aid in your time free of a relationship.

Masturbation whether with a toy or with your hand is healthy; releases tension and stress, not to mention it helps you learn more about your body and what it takes for your own orgasm and sexual pleasure.

“Some experts suggest that masturbation can actually improve sexual health and relationships. By exploring your own body through masturbation, you can determine what is erotically pleasing to you and can share this with your partner. Some partners use mutual masturbation to discover techniques for a more satisfying sexual relationship and to add to their mutual intimacy.”

The best toys in my opinion for personal use are the multiple use vibrators. It stimulates the inside of the vagina, namely the g-spot and the clitoris at the same time. There are multiple use vibrators specifically geared for the g-spot orgasm, but just about any toy that has the moving shaft (whether it be beads or rotation) will hit the g-spot too.

Another great toy for the single and married woman is the vibrating bullet. It is also a great starter toy as it doesn’t look like a typical vibrator, isn’t falic and doesn’t intimidate.

Get together with your adult sex toy consultant to book your party today and get you and your other single girlfriends hooked up! Works for married women too!

Sources:

http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/guide/masturbation-guide

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Sex Stimulants

Filed under: Sex Accessories,Sex and You — Tags: blow jobs, clitoral creams, head gel, L-Argenine, sex stimulants, tightening gel, warming lotions — arousep @ 12:17 am

What are they? They are different types of cream that help stimulate certain areas for sex. There are clitoral creams, head gels, warming lotions, etc.

In my opinion, these items are the most important accessory you can have in your nightstand drawer.

Clitoral creams include different products that stimulate the clitoris, such as L-Argnine, L-Ornathine or some kind of menthol. They come in different kinds of strengths. I have found that the creams are stronger than the gels personally.

Head Gels (or creams) are great for giving head or blow jobs. Men love the sensation and it gives us women a bit less work to do. If you get the mint flavor head cream or gel it can help with the gag reflex too.

Tightening gel is a different kind of stimulant, it aids in tightening the vaginal walls and making the woman feel the penis more as well as the man feel the woman as tighter more virgin-like.

Warming Lotions are awesome for giving head. They are the types that heat up when blown on. This is great for licking off as well as they are usually nicely flavored where as flavored lube can taste like glycerin. You just need to make sure you lick it all off nice and clean as the warming does end up with friction and can hurt if you have sex while using the lotion.

Sexual accessories are the best. They can add to your sexual experience without even adding toys. So its also a great way to get your partner used to adding new things to sex.

Book your party today to see more about sexual accessories to enhance your sex life.

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Sex and the Christian Woman

Filed under: The Marital Bed — Tags: christian woman, climax, sex toys in the bedroom, sexual intimacy, sexual relations, vibrators — arousep @ 12:15 am

When it comes to sexual intimacy and the Christian woman, many will do what works, many wonder if what they are doing is wrong or a sin and some suffer in silence as they don’t climax and lose interest.

I asked a pastor once if he thought it was wrong to use sex toys in the bedroom. His answer? Absolutely not. A happily married couple is having sexual relations and having a good time with it? A happily married couple is able to concentrate on God and that is good. Please the woman and she wants more sex. Please the man and he stays with that woman (for the most part). And this is all good under God.

In the Bible, it has very few sexual areas that are declared wrong. Adultry is one of these. Then there are some obvious areas such as beastiality and incest. There is not an area in the Bible that declares pornography, vibrators or the like.

God made sex, he didn’t make it dirty. It was made to connect the man and woman together and to procreate. We make it dirty when we over think it. Remember it for what it is and what helps you connect with your partner is something to cherish and use. And do your research if you think it may something God would be against. We women like to forget that we are sexual creatures when we become mothers or Christians and it shouldn’t be that way. We should always embrace our sexuality as it is a gift God gave us.

In my humble opinion, the best toys for a couple is the C-Rings, the type with the clitoral stimulator. This little bit of assistance can make the difference in a marriage and a sexual session between you and your partner. Giving the woman an orgasm without her having to go in and do a bunch of preparation, mental, physical, etc. Can be like night and day to a busy mom, housewife and working woman.

The really great thing about these parties (the in home parties that we do) you can have a very clean party and not go into the seedy adult book stores or pay hefty online prices for your items. Plus you can earn free items for having the party. Book yours today.

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C-Rings

Filed under: Sex Accessories — Tags: c-rings, Cock Ring, lube, sex stimulator, vibrator — arousep @ 12:14 am

C-Rings, also known as Cock Rings are another nice to have accessory for sexual relations. There are a few things these products can help with. A regular c-ring that looks like this —-> and is great for enhancing the mans orgasm as well as prolong it. As it restricts the blood flow (which we know is what makes the penis hard in the first place) and keeps it from releasing as quickly. Which can be great for the woman as well. She gets more time to have her orgasm.

This also works when a man has been drinking and is quick to the draw. Some men take longer when drinking, some take less. I use these for the morning sessions. My partner is definitely quick to the draw in the morning and this helps with that! The mornings are no longer just about him.

All C-rings are easy to apply – some people put them at the base of the penis and some stretch them and put them along the top of the penis shaft and underneath the testicals.

Where you put them depends on your partner and his sensitivity around the testical area. You can have them down there and it may ruin the mood if he can’t hack it!!!

Another fun thing about C Rings is many companies put them together with a vibrator on top and it becomes a vibrating machine for the clitoris. An example of that is like this CRing. Although there are MANY types.

Some have bigger more enhanced type vibrating stimulators and some have smaller, its all about personal choice. These are GREAT for sexual intercourse!!! I have many women thank me for recommending these. Men don’t feel “replaced” by a big toy but the woman still gets to get that extra stimulation.

And if you didn’t read my post about sex stimulators, there are creams, gels and lube that can really help awaken the nerve endings and get the blood flowing for orgasms to occur and that is always an awesome plan!

If you want to book a party and see some of these products up close, we can do that here too! Hostesses get 10% of the party after the party does $250 (in product of course) so book a party today!

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The benefits of Anal Beads

Filed under: Toys — Tags: anal beads, book a adult party, climax, orgasm, sex toy — arousep @ 12:13 am

bootybeads Anal beads are a sex toy that consists of several small balls or beads connecting together made for anal pleasure. They are sometimes vibrating, sometimes not.

Made of different materials, depends on what you like and what feels best to you. Silicone, plastic, rubber, latex, glass or metal are typical materials used for anal beads.

There is usually a ring or pull at the base of the beads to prevent any lodging of the toy.

Anal beads come in variable sizes. Newer users should start out small and work their way up.

Not a fetish item, but considered a bit kinky- anal beads are used by both sexes. The benefit? When you pull them out during orgasm you intensify the climax sensation. During orgasm muscles flex over and over – as the beads are pulled it causes the rectum to flex and the combination of the two causes intense orgasm sensations.

Some anal beads come with vibrators enhancing those sensations even more.

The negative: You should be very comfortable with your partner to use any kind of anal toy or have anal sex. Anal beads can be a bit embarrassing to use as they may have feces on the toy when it pulls out. A way to keep that from happening is to use an anal douche first.

The anal beads can be hard to get fully clean. You want to use a good cleaner and make sure you get them clean.

If you are a bit adventurous and have tried anal sex and enjoyed it, this may be something new for you to try. Check with your local consultant to book a party or order.

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Aphrodisiacs

Filed under: Sex and You — Tags: aphrodisiac, chocolate, erotica, female libido, horny goat weed — arousep @ 12:12 am

An aphrodisiac is a substance believed to help aid in sexual desire. The name came from the Greek goddess of sensuality and love- Aphrodite.

Different foods and whatnot are said to be able aid in sexual desire. Chocolate is supposed to be an aphrodisiac. It does have seratonin that helps with the pleasure center of the brain…so it does do something for you. Certain foods are aphrodisiacs because of the way they look. Such as bananas look like a penis, oysters look like a vagina.

Some foods are just plain healthy for you and help with the sex department that way- such as wheat germ. It has a large source of Vitamin E. Vitamin E is a powerful vitamin for sex. It is also an anti-aging ancient as it has many anti-oxidants and is great for hormone balance. Which is also needed for women to have a healthy sex life.

Amongst the aphrodisiacs of the world are herbs. While the FDA do not condone the use of herbs, some have been known to work. A few of the more known herbs are – Ginseng, Horny Goat Weed, Fo-Ti, Damiana, and more. I’ve only personally tried a few of them and didn’t feel much different, but maybe it wasn’t the kind I maybe needed.

Visual aphrodisiacs have been something that has helped many people. Porn is no longer considered dirty and wrong. It can be used to enhance the sexual experience between partners. There are erotica movies that do not show the actual penatration and can be watched by the individuals that do not want to watch full porn.

If you are having challenged sexual experiences, some of these ideas may help you. The point is to not give up. Because a healthy sex life is what keeps you and your partner together.

If you are interested in finding out more about tools that can liven your sex life up- Book a party today!

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Ben Wa Balls

Filed under: Female Sexuality — Tags: ben wa balls, book a party, sexual health, sexual pleasure — arousep @ 12:11 am

Known with other identities too, Ben Walls have been called Burmese balls or Geisha Balls. They are small, marble sized balls- some have a weight inside that moves around and some are just solid. They can be used for sexual pleasure and/or for kegel exercises.

Sexual Pleasure: They were not designed for a quick orgasm, but a different subtle feeling. Teasing more than direct stimulation. There also has been history behind the balls that some say are for enlarging the penis. Don’t ask me how, its just the story.

When I was doing parties, I would also hear of women who would put two balls inside the vagina and sit on their clothes washer. But I never tried it to know if it worked.

For Health:

Strengthening the floor of the pelvic wall. Inserting the balls (one to start) and working to hold the ball inside the vagina walls, helps strengthen the vaginal muscles. This aids in better sexual experiences, helps restore the vagina after pregnancy and aids in sexual pleasure as the woman can squeeze or hug the penis as it is inside. As you get older and it gets holder to hold your urine, strengthening these walls through use of the Ben Wa balls has been suggested by urinologists and general practitioners.

I have sold many Ben Wa balls in my day. They are a very inexpensive aid for health and have helped me as well.

If you have interest in purchasing Ben Wa balls or having a party- Please book a party and talk to a consultant today.

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The Clitoris

Filed under: Female Sexuality,The Marital Bed,Toys — Tags: clitoris, lubricant, orgasm, stimulation — arousep @ 12:07 am

One of the most important parts of the female body, learning about this body part can help make you a great lover.

The Clitoris is the sexual organ of the female. The clitoris is the most sensitive erogenous zone of a woman, the stimulation of this organ will produce clitoral erection and sexual excitement.

The Function of the Clitoris

The clitoris has no other purpose in its existence except to bring the female sexual pleasure. The organ has more than 8,000 nerve endings built just for pleasure.

Where is the Clitoris?

It is a small round button or flower looking bud- right above the vaginal opening. It is covered by a small flap of skin called the clitoral hood. This hood keeps the clitoris from over stimulation- many women don’t like direct clitoral stimulation. Stimulating right around the hood is a good way to stimulate without over doing. Then venture further and see how she responds.

Clitoral Sensitivity

Sensitivity differs between women. Some prefer a light touch as was mentioned before and some enjoy more vigorous stimulation. Be sure to use either natural lubrication or use bought lubrication for the clitoris, some women can be in pain without it and others will just enjoy the contact that much better.

Ways to stimulate the clitoris

Intercourse is the most popular. Many women can’t orgasm through sexual intercourse alone. Using a sex toy or your finger can help with this. Or using oral stimulation before intercourse can help too.

Clitoral stimulation with sex toys- Sex toys offer a maximum stimulation for the clitoris. Many are designed solely for the clitoral area.

Clitoral stimulation with fingers- Not as powerful as the toys or oral this still can be a great way to stimulate if concentrating on the area.

Clitoral stimulation with the mouth- also known as cunnilingus. This is one of the best ways to stimulate the clitoris. The tongue is soft yet can be intense to the area and the saliva is a natural lubricant.

The best toys you can buy for clitoral stimulation

Bullet- A quality bullet is a great toy for clitoral stimulation. You can put the entire bullet along the clitoral area for great concentrated stimulation. Or along the base for a more gentle stimulation. Bullets are not a very expensive toy either, so this helps with the pocket book too.

Couples toy C-Ring with clitoral stimulating bullet at the top. This is a great couples toy that will directly stimulate the clitoris during sexual intercourse and aid in both individuals pleasure.

If you would like to know more about different toys that can aid in your sexual pleasure contact us to book a party or order products. We sell all kinds of clitoral stimulants, in the form of toys, creams and lubricants!

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