Arouse the Passion

Introducing toys into the Bedroom

I have been asked many times how to actually introduce toys into the bedroom; well- the way I did it was to start selling the toys, so obviously that won’t work for everyone. J

One really easy and great way to introduce them is to tell your partner that you are going to an adult toy party with the girls. This is a quick way to see how he would react. (it is also a great way to see adult toys up close and personal- in the privacy of your own home or your friends and in a party setting that is secure and fun! ) If he is excited for you to go to the party, he is excited to stimulate the bedroom experience!

If he doesn’t seem to want you to go to a party…well there you may have the answer that he is intimidated by the toys. Many people misunderstand that the toys are not for taking over in the bedroom but for enhancing.

Keep the conversation light hearted when delving into the toy talk. Don’t go into this conversation during an argument and/or because you just had sex and didn’t have an orgasm.

The fact is that men want to please their spouse/partner and their egos can get involved when you feel the need to get a toy to help with orgasms. But, women sometimes NEED the help to reach orgasm and having her achieve one is in the best interest of everyone.

So make it about him. Explain that a C-Ring (such as Buzzing Butterfly Ring) will help him have an even better orgasm than ever and stick with the kind built for couple’s and it will help you as well. J

I also like to tell ladies to make toys an experience. Not to just have sex and then, oh- whip out a toy, let’s put this on! Massage your man (using our Erotic Hot Massage Kit is an awesome way to do this) , blindfold him- get him in a sexy mood and then use a cream that stimulates his penis (such as Happy Penis) and he will be ready for anything! Slip a C-Ring over his penis and climb on!

Another great toy to make it about him is the masturbation sleeve (such as our Velvet Touch Masturbator) Masturbation sleeves are intended for masturbation but are awesome for enhancing oral sex. Slipping one of these sleeves on and massaging the penis while using your mouth for extra stimulation and your man will forget that there is a toy involved at all.

Again, a great way to let him do anything you want is to get him stimulated and if he will let you; blindfold him.

Keeping the toys simple at first will keep the toys from being less intimidating as well and will lead to bigger and better toys. A few suggestions are Couple’s toys, Nipple clamps, sleeves, etc.

Toys mentioned in this article:

• Double Twin Rabbit (re:couple’s toys) : $43 Vibrating bullets on either side of the penis turns the penis into a vibrator!
• Buzzing Butterfly Ring $15 A great C-Ring for couple’s and for a great price. This Ring has clitoral stimulating nubs as well as a vibrating bullet. And of course the wonderful C-Ring for the penis to keep it erect and keep it lasting.
• Happy Penis $10 Penis stimulating lotion in Banana Split, Pina Colada, and Cherry Sucker flavors.
• Erotic Hot Massage Kit: $32 comes with Heart Warmer Massager, Joy of Erotic Massage DVD, CD of relaxing music and a massage candle that melts into massage oil.
• Lovers Mask: $8
• Velvet Touch Masturbator $28

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