The Marital Bed | Arouse the Passion

April 11, 2010

Introducing toys into the Bedroom

Filed under: The Marital Bed — Tags: adult toy party, adult toys, Buzzing Butterfly Ring, C-Ring, couple's toys, double twin rabbit, erotic hot massage kit, happy penis, masturbation sleeve, nipple clamps, oral sex, orgasm, sleeves, the bedroom experience, velvet touch masturbator — arousep @ 12:22 am

I have been asked many times how to actually introduce toys into the bedroom; well- the way I did it was to start selling the toys, so obviously that won’t work for everyone. J

One really easy and great way to introduce them is to tell your partner that you are going to an adult toy party with the girls. This is a quick way to see how he would react. (it is also a great way to see adult toys up close and personal- in the privacy of your own home or your friends and in a party setting that is secure and fun! ) If he is excited for you to go to the party, he is excited to stimulate the bedroom experience!

If he doesn’t seem to want you to go to a party…well there you may have the answer that he is intimidated by the toys. Many people misunderstand that the toys are not for taking over in the bedroom but for enhancing.

Keep the conversation light hearted when delving into the toy talk. Don’t go into this conversation during an argument and/or because you just had sex and didn’t have an orgasm.

The fact is that men want to please their spouse/partner and their egos can get involved when you feel the need to get a toy to help with orgasms. But, women sometimes NEED the help to reach orgasm and having her achieve one is in the best interest of everyone.

So make it about him. Explain that a C-Ring (such as Buzzing Butterfly Ring) will help him have an even better orgasm than ever and stick with the kind built for couple’s and it will help you as well. J

I also like to tell ladies to make toys an experience. Not to just have sex and then, oh- whip out a toy, let’s put this on! Massage your man (using our Erotic Hot Massage Kit is an awesome way to do this) , blindfold him- get him in a sexy mood and then use a cream that stimulates his penis (such as Happy Penis) and he will be ready for anything! Slip a C-Ring over his penis and climb on!

Another great toy to make it about him is the masturbation sleeve (such as our Velvet Touch Masturbator) Masturbation sleeves are intended for masturbation but are awesome for enhancing oral sex. Slipping one of these sleeves on and massaging the penis while using your mouth for extra stimulation and your man will forget that there is a toy involved at all.

Again, a great way to let him do anything you want is to get him stimulated and if he will let you; blindfold him.

Keeping the toys simple at first will keep the toys from being less intimidating as well and will lead to bigger and better toys. A few suggestions are Couple’s toys, Nipple clamps, sleeves, etc.

Toys mentioned in this article:

Double Twin Rabbit (re:couple’s toys) : $43 Vibrating bullets on either side of the penis turns the penis into a vibrator!
Buzzing Butterfly Ring $15 A great C-Ring for couple’s and for a great price. This Ring has clitoral stimulating nubs as well as a vibrating bullet. And of course the wonderful C-Ring for the penis to keep it erect and keep it lasting.
Happy Penis $10 Penis stimulating lotion in Banana Split, Pina Colada, and Cherry Sucker flavors.
Erotic Hot Massage Kit: $32 comes with Heart Warmer Massager, Joy of Erotic Massage DVD, CD of relaxing music and a massage candle that melts into massage oil.
Lovers Mask: $8
Velvet Touch Masturbator $28

To sign up for a party and/or purchase one of the products mentioned…Go to About the Parties and fill out the form.

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Sex and the Christian Woman

Filed under: The Marital Bed — Tags: christian woman, climax, sex toys in the bedroom, sexual intimacy, sexual relations, vibrators — arousep @ 12:15 am

When it comes to sexual intimacy and the Christian woman, many will do what works, many wonder if what they are doing is wrong or a sin and some suffer in silence as they don’t climax and lose interest.

I asked a pastor once if he thought it was wrong to use sex toys in the bedroom. His answer? Absolutely not. A happily married couple is having sexual relations and having a good time with it? A happily married couple is able to concentrate on God and that is good. Please the woman and she wants more sex. Please the man and he stays with that woman (for the most part). And this is all good under God.

In the Bible, it has very few sexual areas that are declared wrong. Adultry is one of these. Then there are some obvious areas such as beastiality and incest. There is not an area in the Bible that declares pornography, vibrators or the like.

God made sex, he didn’t make it dirty. It was made to connect the man and woman together and to procreate. We make it dirty when we over think it. Remember it for what it is and what helps you connect with your partner is something to cherish and use. And do your research if you think it may something God would be against. We women like to forget that we are sexual creatures when we become mothers or Christians and it shouldn’t be that way. We should always embrace our sexuality as it is a gift God gave us.

In my humble opinion, the best toys for a couple is the C-Rings, the type with the clitoral stimulator. This little bit of assistance can make the difference in a marriage and a sexual session between you and your partner. Giving the woman an orgasm without her having to go in and do a bunch of preparation, mental, physical, etc. Can be like night and day to a busy mom, housewife and working woman.

The really great thing about these parties (the in home parties that we do) you can have a very clean party and not go into the seedy adult book stores or pay hefty online prices for your items. Plus you can earn free items for having the party. Book yours today.

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The Clitoris

Filed under: Female Sexuality,The Marital Bed,Toys — Tags: clitoris, lubricant, orgasm, stimulation — arousep @ 12:07 am

One of the most important parts of the female body, learning about this body part can help make you a great lover.

The Clitoris is the sexual organ of the female. The clitoris is the most sensitive erogenous zone of a woman, the stimulation of this organ will produce clitoral erection and sexual excitement.

The Function of the Clitoris

The clitoris has no other purpose in its existence except to bring the female sexual pleasure. The organ has more than 8,000 nerve endings built just for pleasure.

Where is the Clitoris?

It is a small round button or flower looking bud- right above the vaginal opening. It is covered by a small flap of skin called the clitoral hood. This hood keeps the clitoris from over stimulation- many women don’t like direct clitoral stimulation. Stimulating right around the hood is a good way to stimulate without over doing. Then venture further and see how she responds.

Clitoral Sensitivity

Sensitivity differs between women. Some prefer a light touch as was mentioned before and some enjoy more vigorous stimulation. Be sure to use either natural lubrication or use bought lubrication for the clitoris, some women can be in pain without it and others will just enjoy the contact that much better.

Ways to stimulate the clitoris

Intercourse is the most popular. Many women can’t orgasm through sexual intercourse alone. Using a sex toy or your finger can help with this. Or using oral stimulation before intercourse can help too.

Clitoral stimulation with sex toys- Sex toys offer a maximum stimulation for the clitoris. Many are designed solely for the clitoral area.

Clitoral stimulation with fingers- Not as powerful as the toys or oral this still can be a great way to stimulate if concentrating on the area.

Clitoral stimulation with the mouth- also known as cunnilingus. This is one of the best ways to stimulate the clitoris. The tongue is soft yet can be intense to the area and the saliva is a natural lubricant.

The best toys you can buy for clitoral stimulation

Bullet- A quality bullet is a great toy for clitoral stimulation. You can put the entire bullet along the clitoral area for great concentrated stimulation. Or along the base for a more gentle stimulation. Bullets are not a very expensive toy either, so this helps with the pocket book too.

Couples toy C-Ring with clitoral stimulating bullet at the top. This is a great couples toy that will directly stimulate the clitoris during sexual intercourse and aid in both individuals pleasure.

If you would like to know more about different toys that can aid in your sexual pleasure contact us to book a party or order products. We sell all kinds of clitoral stimulants, in the form of toys, creams and lubricants!

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